How To Stop Attracting Wounded Masculine Energy
We attract what we are an energetic match for
Ooh, that may feel triggering! But stay with me…
Wounded attracts wounded and divine attracts divine.
I know this revelation can sound uncomfortable, but this here is a place for the inner work! For deep inner reflection, where we can leave our egos at the door.
There is no shame in the inner work, it’s part of our life’s purpose!
So let’s rewind back to when I was stuck in all of these toxic relationship patterns, with guy after guy having a different face, but the same behaviour and energy. When I was finally able to put my ego aside and become conscious of this pattern, I was like..
‘Okay universe, i’m paying attention. This is not a coincidence, something is clearly going on here - so I’m going to look within’
And this is not about blame, but personal power.
So as I learnt about the wounded masculine and the wounded feminine, I was able to recognise that yes, I was embodying some wounded feminine traits.
It all made sense! That’s why I kept attracting the wounded masculine, because we were a match for each other!
So how did I break the pattern + stop attracting this? I changed myself, I did the work to heal my feminine energy.
As I gradually healed more and more, the people I was dating begun reflecting that! It was so funny to watch that outside world change to mirror the changes to my inner world.
For example, when I learnt to stop people pleasing, betraying my own needs and worrying about expressing myself in case I got gaslighted or abandoned - I started to recognise that I was no longer a match for people who would shut me down, who were emotionally repressive, or who would gaslight, because I wasn’t at that frequency anymore.
Whereas the more I would be quiet and walking on eggshells, the more I was emitting a frequency of ‘guarded’ and all of the things I didn’t want to attract. The more people would recognise that and take advantage of it!
So yes, I turned the mirror inwards and did a tonne of inner work to heal my wounded feminine patterns and behaviours. And as I did that, I started to attract better and better in all areas of my life and THEN, I also consciously manifested my partner.
So in order to stop attracting wounded masculine energy, the most powerful shift is to stop asking, ‘Why is he behaving like this?’ and start asking, ‘what is it in me that attracts and entertains this?’
Is it because that flightiness, uncertainty and detachment feels attractive to you?
Is it because his actions make you feel ‘not good enough’ so now you need his approval?
Is it because you feel you need him to feel safe? (because you don’t feel safe in yourself)
Because when a guy ghosts you, sends you mixed messages or stays in the shallow end - that’s on him. But the pull in you that just wants him more now… that’s a flashing arrow showing you where you have wounds to heal. Because when you’ve bonded with wounded masculine energy in your formative years, you may find those wounded traits attractive. When you have an abandonment wound, or haven’t felt safe, you may seek safety even where it doesn’t lie. When you have the unworthiness feminine wound, you make seek his validation, even if he’s not what you want.
But whilst these patterns aren’t a coincidence, they’re also not a life sentence, but just data highlighting the wounds that need to heal, the shifts that need to happen + the aligned energy you need to embody.
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Why you experience feast and famine cycles with money
If you have feast + famine cycles with money in your life, let me ask you THIS...
Have you ever had a significant relationship, where the dynamic was hot, then cold, then hot then cold. One minute you're getting so much love and care, and the next that person has gone cold to you, become aggressive with you, or maybe even physically left - and so you didn't know what to expect
If you have feast + famine cycles with money in your life, let me ask you THIS...
Have you ever had a significant relationship, where the dynamic was hot, then cold, then hot then cold.
One minute you're getting so much love and care, and the next that person has gone cold to you, become aggressive with you, or maybe even physically left - and so you didn't know what to expect
This is often with a primary caregiver, but it could also have been a significant romantic relationship.
If yes - this is reflective of an anxious attachment style, and it's why you experience feast and famine with money! 🤯🤯🤯
So, it's not your fault! We learn how to receive based on our first relationships and how we learnt to form attachments.
So if you learnt that with love; sometimes you have it + sometimes you don't...
You'll of course play that out with money too!
Why? Because money is also just an energy flow.
So if it didn't feel normal to receive consistent love and you couldn't always rely on it being there, then perhaps now you find it's not normal for you to receive a steady amount of income, or to always have a steady amount in the bank.
Instead, it's there, it's gone, it's there, it's gone! You don't know what to expect, you don't feel safe to enjoy your money because you never know if it's coming or going.
WHY am I reading your mind? Because i've been there! I'm still progressing through my healing journey, but i've made SO much progress by doing the inner work to heal the root of this issue and adopting certain financial habits to build a secure relationship with money.
I asked TikTok if I should create a bundle of all the resources I've created + used to help clients, (+ myself), overcome this ... and they said YES!
So here it is. Everything you need to heal your anxious attachment with money, because you deserve to feel safe + confident with money. You deserve to enjoy it, not feel victim to it!
Get the workbook, meditation, video training, money checklist + daily affirmations all inside this powerful bundle - Enjoy!
What is the ROI on healing your feminine energy?
What actually happens when you heal your feminine energy? Are you sitting on a rock in the wilderness, when a light beam suddenly comes through the sky and shines onto your crown chakra? Do you start levitating above the earth feeling, well, zen AF?!
How do you get an idea of the return on investment, on something intangible?! Well the reason we make these energetic shifts is because they change the actual tangible things in our lives, right down to the money in our pockets.
What actually happens when you heal your feminine energy? Are you sitting on a rock in the wilderness, when a light beam suddenly comes through the sky and shines onto your crown chakra? Do you start levitating above the earth feeling, well, zen AF?!
How do you get an idea of the return on investment, on something intangible?! Well the reason we make these energetic shifts is because they change the actual tangible things in our lives, right down to the money in our pockets.
Whilst energetic healing might still have a bit of a woo-woo stigma attached to it, the effects it has on your life are very much noticeable - and can be life-changing!
Why? Because your energy creates your vibration! So when you shift out the wounded energetic traits of shame, doubt and insecurity, you raise your energetic vibration. You emit out a higher frequency which in turn, attracts things of a higher vibration.
In your real life, this can look like:
Better Relationships
As you heal, you no longer attract or entertain relationships where you aren't valued or honoured - because your vibe is no longer a match for them! This isn’t limited to romantic relationships! It means all relationships; like with clients + friends!
Better Opportunities
You draw and secure better opportunities to you, because you've raised your energetic minimum of what you feel worthy of
Longevity
When you're in alignment with your core energy, you get into flow! This gives you longevity in what you're doing because you're no longer fighting against yourself (which leads to burnout!)
Inner Peace, Confidence + Self Love
Aside from all the ways this energetic healing draws tangible abundance towards you, ultimately it changes the way you feel about yourself; how you feel when you look in the mirror, go on a date, or interview for that job!
This healing is very much about what you attract and what you maintain. I know in the past, I would sabotage myself out of higher paid clients! Unconsciously not feeling worthy of the max package rate and down selling them the next month, when in hindsight, they were happy where they were!
I just didn’t have the energetic capacity then to be a match for that higher price. I didn’t feel safe receiving it!
Similarly I can see how in hindsight, when dates who genuinely did value, respect and cherish me came into my life…I’d remove myself. My vibration wasn’t a match for that kind of treatment, it didn’t feel normal or safe to me. So this would masquerade itself as me seeing them as boring, or feeling ‘no spark’!
So yes, the ROI on all of this, is really priceless, don’t you agree?
Because healing your energy doesn’t have a short term effect, it’s something you’ll benefit from forever. Even when you slip back into old habits, or when life gets tough, you’ll have the foundation you need to shift back to that higher version of yourself. The version of yourself who attracts better in all areas!
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Side Effects of Wounded Feminine Energy
Okay so you’ve heard the buzz words ‘wounded feminine energy’ popping up everywhere by now, but you still aren’t clear on what the heck that actually means. You’re ready to get past the fluffy descriptions, and you’re like, ‘can someone just tell me what it actually is please? Do I have it or not?’. I hear you. I’m your girl! So let’s cut to the chase and get into it.
Wounded feminine energy shows up in your life through tendencies like these:
Sacrificing your own desires and goals, due to people pleasing
Staying in unhappy situations or roles due to insecurity and self doubt
Hustling or over occupying yourself to feel worthy, or even to outrun emotions
Essentially the wounded keeps you from living in your 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗲 light & following your 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗲 path! If you ever feel like, ‘this just isn’t my story’, could wounded feminine energy misleading you be why?
You see the wounded traits block you from taking back the reigns of your life! When we’re stuck in insecurity and self doubt, everything we’re searching for is 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘢𝘭, 𝘢𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘷𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯. So we’ll do whatever it is that will get us those things, even if that’s not what actually aligns for us!
On the other hand, when you’re in divine feminine energy, you know your worth and you validate yourself from within, you make choices that will 𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗳𝗶𝗹 you … not validate you! This is how you build a life that lights you, and all of those around you, up! This is why energy is at the core of 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨.
So do you want better romantic & non romantic relationships, a more fulfilling and abundant career and to feel like you’re thriving? It all starts with your self image, which determines every step you take. Shifting from the wounded feminine energy, to the divine, is a 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 of self image!
For me, it suddenly made me see that everything I was at dis-ease with about myself, was actually my radiance & power! That gave me the confidence to go bravely in all areas, like;
✨ my new relationship after a string of toxic ones
✨ my business as it evolved and became even more apologetic
✨ & honestly, in every single thing I do
So when you heal your feminine energy, you take back your power!
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What is human design? The New Age Success System That Will Change Your Life
Can you feel it?! It literally gives me chills!
We are in a whole new era, where things are only becoming more & more about a whole new type of transcendence.
Can you feel it?! It literally gives me chills!
We are in a whole new era, where things are only becoming more & more about a whole new type of transcendence.
As a collective, we are shedding our old success systems entirely. It’s happening in the entrepreneurial world that’s less inhibited by fixed structures first. But I see it happening worldwide eventually. It’s no longer about becoming, but remembering
Not about learning to be a success, but uncovering the success system you have built inside you .
✨CHILLS✨
You see, our old success system was based on trying to become something. It was about ‘doing’ more, working harder in an effort to force our goals to happen. It was about investing in shiny solutions, to what we perceived to be our ‘lack’. It was about learning the ways of other successful people and trying to imitate them.
But now, with the receipt of new information, a revolution is underway! Our new success system is brewing and many have already adopted it. It’s about slowing down to speed up, so to speak. It’s about taking the time to go inwards, identifying the valuable and aligned tasks that matter. It’s about investing not from lack and desperation, but excitement and curiosity. It’s no longer about imitating the ways of the successful, but turning the mirror inwards, and learning about our biggest asset; ourselves. Learning our own roadmap to success, based on our unique human design.
Human design is the new age success system that is built off of the belief that we were all perfectly designed for success, just in different ways. It’s a unique blend of the I Ching, Kabbalah, the chakra system, astrology and quantum physics!
Because did our creator pick some of us out to be successful & live their dreams… and others to be granted no such potential? Doesn’t seem feasible to me. None of us were made superior, yet we are all superior to each other in 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 ways. And, equally, inferior in others. Because we are all equal, but not the same.
We all have our own brilliance that comes in different forms. You might have just misplaced it, amongst the paradigm society has inbuilt, that only 𝗰𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗻 traits are ‘success’ traits. Untrue! You were designed for success! You just have to shed all that conditioning and align to 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 way and to your authentic self.
The magic of human design as a tool to do this blows my mind! We’ve only had access to this knowledge for just over 30 years! That’s why we’re still hanging onto our old way … but not for long.
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